Intentions vs. Outcomes

We judge ourselves based on our intentions, but we judge others based on their actions. Do others have good intentions and we just took it the wrong way? Family has created habits in us that we may not be too fond of, was it their intention to create these habits? What about health and how we take care of ourselves. We know what this could be leading to, but yet we still don't take care of ourselves as best as we could. Are we expecting a different outcome?